Time heals all wounds. At least, that's what we're told. But does it?
In the book of Genesis, Jacob steals his older brother Esau's blessing. Siblings know how frustrating it can be when a brother or sister messes with their things. Well, this was much more than that. Esau's rage builds, and he vows to kill his brother.
The boys' mother, Rebekah, orchestrated this whole scenario. And when she hears what Esau plans to do, she tells Jacob to run away to an uncle for a while. A literal translation of the text could be to tarry for a few days. Rebekah assumes Esau's fury and anger will cool down in a few days.
It almost sounds reasonable to give him time to cool his temper. Except Jacob doesn't stay away for a few days. He stays away for about twenty years. And as far as Genesis tells us, Rebekah never sees her son again.
Sometimes, we assume time will do the work that only truth, repentance, forgiveness, and God's grace can accomplish. We like to think, "They'll get over it," or, "I'll deal with it later."
Like Rebekah, we might be tempted to let time soften memories and feelings. But time cannot repent for us and it cannot reconcile hearts.
Instead of simply waiting, God invites us to participate in healing. Grace gives us the courage to speak honestly, the humility to ask for forgiveness, and the compassion to give it to others. While we can't control another person's response, we can decide whether we will take the next faithful step.
So, where have you been waiting? Hoping time would cool down what needs to be addressed? Is there a conversation God has been nudging you toward?
Don't wait for time to do what grace is already inviting you to begin.
Stay blessed...john
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